First One-on-One

When having a first one-on-one in a professional capacity, I like to ask the following questions. They provide personal insights into your professional thought process and help create a thriving work environment.

This is a living document, and I will update the questions and answers regularly. Feel free to use these in your own one-on-one conversations.

One of my managers inspired me to start this, and I credit him for introducing me to this concept. These questions are derived from Lara Hogan’s article on the topic.

Grumpiness Link to heading

What makes you grumpy?

Unnecessary toil or unclear value in the work being done.

How will I know when you’re grumpy?

I am open about it and will highlight it clearly.

How can I help you when you’re grumpy?

First, let me know if I’m being unreasonable. Second, help me find ways to improve the overall process, even if it’s just a small step in the right direction.

Feedback & Recognition Link to heading

How do you like feedback - the medium (IRC, email, in person, etc.)?

In person for career development or significant matters. Asynchronously for work or presentation feedback.

I prefer feedback in a structured format, such as the Feedback Equation.

How do you like feedback - routine like in 1:1s, or as-it-happens?

I prefer 1:1s as they allow everyone to be in the prepared state of mind to deliver and receive feedback.

However, this means sometimes valuable feedback in the moment might be lost. Any routine will always be welcome.

How do you prefer to receive recognition (public or private)?

Publicly, as it fosters a culture of mutual recognition.

Goals and Support Link to heading

What makes 1:1s the most valuable for you?

Understanding what you’re working on, what’s blocking you, and how I can help you achieve your potential. I also enjoy hearing how you solved a problem and your thought process behind it.

What are your goals for this year? And for the next 3 months?

[Your response here]

What do you need from your manager?

Regular feedback, a sounding board for non-technical ideas, and a mentor to help me improve technically and professionally.

What do you need from your team?

Feedback and open communication to share regular insights.

What do you need from your peers (outside the team)?

A group of professionals who can help each other grow horizontally (technical skills) and vertically (business skills).

The Wordy Question Link to heading

Human learning and growth require the right amount of four things: new challenges, low ego, space to reflect and brainstorm, and timely and clear feedback. How are these four going for you? Is there one you need more or less of?

Low ego: I like to take on menial tasks as it allows me to learn and improve processes.

Space to reflect and brainstorm: I enjoy daily focus time to read new content related to my work and think about problems that need consideration. This varies on a weekly basises for me.

New challenges: I stay engaged by seeking new challenges. I notice a lack of engagement on my part when I’m not challenged which is when I try and find new ways to satisfy my appetite for challenges.

Timely and clear feedback: I appreciate clear and timely feedback, which my wonderful peers in the past and present have provided.

The Most Important Question Link to heading

What’s your favorite way to treat yourself?

I like to buy more tech for my home lab or automation projects.

For bigger celebrations, I enjoy traveling and exploring new places.